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September 5, 2011

Shirin Juwaley : Winning An Acid Test

Filed under: marriage,Mumbai,Of men women and Eunuchs,Suicides murder women,This Gets To Me,Truth of India — Kaveeta Oberoi Kaul @ 2:27 pm
Tags: acid attacks, indian women, juwaley, palash, shirin

Shirin before the attack..youthful hopeful zestful

Shirin Juwale an innocent young bride who was the victim of a criminal act of the highest order, when her husband threw acid on her face , perhaps with the intention to disfigure her forever. Well he did succeed in disfiguring her face, to some extent but failed to make any lasting impact on her indomitable spirit.

Shirin today 16 surgeries later ..confident and whole.

Acid attacks need not always be from a bottle. The tongue suffices magnificently, as is evident when you further read the story of her struggle. The principal of a college, the name of which has been with held by Shirin, out of an act of kindness ( misplaced, I would think) on a request from her to speak to the students of her NGO Palash was met with ““We only want heroes to come here. Not survivors. It does not take courage to survive,” she was told” (more…)

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November 7, 2009

Perfect Bride: Dulhan Wohi Jo Saas Man Bhaaye

Filed under: India n Me,marriage,opinions,Random,Relationships,Suicides murder women,This Gets To Me,Truth of India — Kaveeta Oberoi Kaul @ 2:39 pm
Tags: india, marriage, opinions, perfectbride, televisionrealityshows

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If one withers with doubt at the veracity of the axiomatic truth stated in the header, all one needs to do is watch the episodes of ‘Lux Perfect Bride’ on Star plus every day at 10.30 p.m. I say this with special reference to the quagmire faced by a contestant Gurpreet and her motherpecked would have been hubby Yashdeep, as also Hitesh and his highly potentate Mom.

One would have imagined that times have changed, what with live in relationships a boring reality that evinced hardly an upraised eyebrow, women opting for adopting kids even before matrimony, pre marital sex a humdrum activity, so it was only natural that choice of a bride would be the sole decision of the would be groom. Ach No!! far from true. It was never dulhan wahi jo piya man bhaaye…not in the hinterlands. (more…)

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June 16, 2009

Shiney Ahuja Accused Of Raping Maid

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Tags: Most Read, Movies, opinions, rape, shineyahuja

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If Breaking News ‘ Shine Ahuja accused of rape’ is the current favorite of television channels, always hot in pursuit of sensational bytes that may help transmogrify their vapid fare post election, its no surprise, when little seems to catch the viewers fancy.

My reaction..disbelief> cynical wave off> piqued to know the truth and nothing but the truth. Somehow frenzied hurling of invectives at an accused, categorical accusation blatantly vitriolic, a tendency such as this is avoided stubbornly. One cannot live with the guilt of having jumped the gun even before the courts verdict of indictment and uncaringly irresponsibly, insensitively go hammer and tongs at our fellow beings. It speaks poorly of our humanistic attributes,. Lets not be the first to cast stones..but the last.

At the outset, I confess that somehow this episode leaves me in serious doubt. (more…)

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March 25, 2008

The Rinku Sachdeva I knew (Updated – Mumbai Mirror Responds)

Filed under: India n Me,marriage,Most Read,Mumbai,opinions,personal,Random,Relationships,Suicides murder women,This Gets To Me — Kaveeta Oberoi Kaul @ 1:01 pm
Tags: amit budhiraja, Experiences, marriage, Most Read, Mumbai, opinions, rinku sachdeva, women

Rinku Sachdeva

Kaveetaa Kaul

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Update 4th August 2008: Gayatri Jayaraman on behalf of People magazine for their newly launched Indian edition contacted me to meet Harish and Binu Sachdev. After some persuasion they agreed to meet up. Gayatri has since resigned from People but Sonal Nerurkar carried the story on Rinku with inputs from the family. Rinku-Sachdev story in PEOPLE..A must read.

Update 6th April 2008: Rinkus father Mr. Harish Sachdeva puts forward his feelings and viewpoints in the comments section.. A must read.

Update 3rd April 2008 : If getting to the unadulterated truth is your concern then please read comment 78 where Ankush Mahindra, Rinkus brother-in-law has spoken out in as veracious and candid a manner as possible.

Update 30th March 2008: Post the publishing of this write up on ‘Sachiniti’, Bapu Deedwania a senior correspondent of Mumbai Mirror got in touch with me ( see comments 13-16) . I was only too keen to set the ball rolling for her to meet the Sachdevas .. their trauma needed to be put forth as well. Todays Mumbai Mirror presents their version of the situation, exactly as Bapu had promised me, without any effort to sensationalise..purely verbatim.Responsible journalism can be such a boon. Thank you Bapu. See bottom of post for details.

Update 28th March 2008 : As predicted here,investigating police officials have found no evidence of any ‘alleged affair’ Rinku Sachdev was ‘reportedly’ accused of . For those of us who knew her, it is not important, since we weren’t assailed with doubts in any case. However, defiling of her good name, issues about circumventing facts, would ultimately tell on her near and dear ones, family and friends which would be grossly unfair. Hence this attempt to showcase the truth.See bottom of post for details.

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How does one grieve over the shocking death of Rinku Sachdeva a 28 year old who you knew as a teenager, whose parents were a couple you looked forward to meeting if only to hear their laughter and imbibe their joie de vivre? How does one replace that happy family with an image of what the TV channels air? Just how does one console the parents? Are there words which can express that ‘I understand your pain I am with you’? And more importantly would such sentiments matter any more? Would they ever be able to recover not just from the loss but more from the sordid insinuations made in the media some blatant some implied but equally defaming? (more…)

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