March 27, 2006

Meher Bhargava..Mata Durga

Filed under: India n Me,Of men women and Eunuchs,Random,Suicides murder women,This Gets To Me — Kaveeta Oberoi Kaul @ 7:17 pm

The title may seem a bit over the top.But I do not recall a single other instance when a mother-in-law has admonished dangerous criminals for teasing her daughter-in -law, demanded an apology and then paid for it with her life.

On this courageous and astonishingly brave Meher Bhargava I had writtenas early as March 7th hoping and praying that she will recover.

But she is no more.

Meher in the hospital kept mentioning the name “Amit”, while the police is looking for someone called ‘Pahari’.

In the hospital, on her deathbed, she told her husband Luv Bhargava that if she had to, she would do it again.

For all those mother-in-laws who have so far connived to either harass their bahus for dowry or even gone to the extent of causing them physical harm, Meher Bhargava should be instrumental in making them bow down their heads in shame.

Enough cannot be said of her last fight, because the fact that the goons and their identity was known to her as much as their criminal activities, it did not deter her from doing what she considered to be right and just.

She had the courage and valour, was a symbol of “Shakti” in human form. How cannot she be looked on as “Durga Ma” !!

Political machinations seem to be at work again. Despite a month having elapsed, the killer is at large.

Cry for justice has been sparked nevertheless.

Accused being protected and shielded by powerful political forces , so say some concerned parties.

The police still confused about main accused.

Is it yet another horrifying catastrophic repeat of Jessica lall Murder case?

If one is to believe the assurances given to Luv bhargava by the police officials and the Chief ministers office, the criminals will be handcuffed within the week.

More importantly, let us not lose sight of the cause of Mehers death. Eve teasing and harassment by neanderthal males has to be struck a death blow. If stringent punishment and public participation matches a show of strength by the victim, then it will not be long before a male would hesitate before the thought crosses his mind to even verbalise his sinister intentions, forget about actually laying a hand on a woman.

Heres praying for Meher’s journey forward, in peaceful realms.

Thanking her for epitomising the infallible, invincible, indomitable,incorruptible spirit of Womanhood as has been displayed by her.

Pledging to her that her killers will be given their due.

Promising to carry on her Fight.


  1. You are telling me.. My mom-in-law would not be willing to even come near ..on the contrary would have blamed me for it all.

    feel so sad for her..

    wish all moms could be like her.

    Comment by Anonymous — March 28, 2006 @ 6:08 pm | Reply

  2. I come to your blog everyday.
    I really like your style of writing.Please write more on women problems, which are faced by young girls.
    we need guidance.
    meher was afighter.
    God bless her

    Comment by puja — March 28, 2006 @ 6:18 pm | Reply

  3. Anonymous,

    I know what you mean. I guess your effort has to be to enjoy the good and ignore the bad. Hopefully she will come around. they usually do if you do not react too much.:)

    Comment by Kaveetaa Kaul — March 28, 2006 @ 6:48 pm | Reply

  4. Hi Puja,


    You know whatever may be the story there is always something there for us to learn from it. That in fact has been my endeavour.

    When i was in my 20’s there really were not very many avenues that we could soak in information from.maybe that is why we were pretty..naiive really.

    I will keep your words in mind all the more.Though I would suggest to try and read between the lines in most of my posts. They are meant to give you an insight to the world and its ways:)

    Comment by Kaveetaa Kaul — March 28, 2006 @ 6:53 pm | Reply

  5. I had read your article in the blog-a thon too. At that time it did not connect as to who was Meher Bhargava.

    Now her death is in the news. No one spoke at that time. Now when she is gone, it is an issue. Only when people pay with their lives, the news and media responds

    Comment by sweetsushi — March 29, 2006 @ 12:58 pm | Reply

  6. Sweetsushi,

    you are right I am afraid. But better late than never.

    It is important that we all do whatever is within our purview to ensure that the focus remains on the issue that kileed her and the fight for justice.

    Comment by Kaveetaa Kaul — March 29, 2006 @ 1:27 pm | Reply

  7. In the news today, this Pahari Guy was shot at, but escaped. The police are following him and have informed the hospitals, since he is wounded.

    Comment by Neha — March 30, 2006 @ 11:57 am | Reply

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