December 1, 2006

‘Agle Janam Mohe Bitiya Na Ki Jo’.. Baba Balnath And His Monstrosities.(Updated)

Filed under: India n Me,Most Read,opinions,This Gets To Me — Kaveeta Oberoi Kaul @ 12:41 pm
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Kaveeta kaul


Please visit Wiki page ‘We Need You’ created for regular updates on the issue and for your support.


Regardless of the fate of the film, what struck a chord with most viewers was the plaint of this lyric in ‘Umrao jaan’..”Agle janam mohe bitiya na ki jo” ( May I never be born a daughter again). This was what came to mind immediately on reading of the incident mentioned hereto.

It took me a while before I could gather myself to write this post. I read this on the NDTV website..the sordid account of the Ghaziabad Ashram.

It may not have been the first instance, but what stops us from attempting to make it the last? No Indian citizen worth his salt can sit back and silently witness Swamis, like this one continue to degrade, dehumanise, derrogate human life and dignity to the appalling depths he has dared to..and worst of all, in the name of ‘protection to orphan girls’.

The administration is as usual blissfully unaware, unconcerned and blind to the nefarious activities on at the ashram, which believe it or not receives a grant from them as well..Horrors never end they! As long as palms are greased, criminals will slide off smoothly.

“The horrors which we have seen, and the still greater horrors we shall presently see, are not signs that rebels, insubordinate, untamable people are increasing in number throughout the world, but rather that there is a constant increase in the number of obedient, docile people.“..should be altered to indifferent, apathetic people.

One can write endlessly on conditions that lead to “Ashrams” of the kind sprouting up in every corner of India. But that would be adopting a long term assessent to the problem which can get as unmanagable as the menace of ever growing population, with no easy solution at hand. What we need now is to emphasise the upsurge of public opinion on matters which so far have been beyond the purview of a citizens life either due to lack of information or initiative.

One shudders to think what this generation of little girls, present in the ashram, brutalised at will, muted and animalised, will grow up to be.. what do they look forward to and what have they been born into? One can almost envisage the smug beast in his lair, congratulating himself day after day, year after year, at the bounty afforded to him, greedily devouring his prey of helpless little girls, at his mercy, with nowhere to go and nobody to turn to…It disgusts me, appalls me and makes me tremble with rage on writing these words.

For each morsel of bread doled out to these poor souls, a pound of flesh was as if extorted literally.

In a country where female infanticide, daughters sold to the highest bidder and dowry deaths are a reality, incidents of the kind should hardly elicit interest or surprise. A shrug of the shoulder, a cursory tsk..tsk..and we are on to Page 3.Indifference, apathy, discompassion at such a time will not only perpetuate the conditions but more alarmingly send the signals to the wrong doers presently and for future that they can carry on with their business since the Indians are too busy carrying on with their empty, meaningless, lives.

“Science may have found a cure for most evils; but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all — the apathy of human beings.”

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing, since indifference boils down to inhumanity.

We bloggers certainly dont fit the above description now, do we? We care..simply because we are supposed to. We are humane and therefore not prone to get appeased easily.

The Ministry, quotes the article, has been apprised. Their response which one would have expected/hoped to be action with alacrity, is in fact a stoic, blinkered, stance of apathetic inaction. They are pre-occupied perhaps with banning bar girls from following their trade,( as if dance bars brutalise women any more than swamis in ashrams) or further stringently censuring adoption laws..neither will they ensure protection of the weak, infirm, women and children in India, nor create conditions of healthy redressal.

The “Swami” meanwhile, is basking in his fiefdom in ‘pious’ arrogance of his power and ability to hoodwink mere mortals..Shamefacedness brings with it a confidence which denies submission, unless we as a people prove to him once and for all that Evil begets Retribution..

Update: This is heartening news..the Chief justice of India has stepped in and the Swami has been charged with rape. Ndtv further states that “The Chief Justice of India has asked the National Human Rights Commission, the National Commission for Women and the district magistrate to submit reports on the case.”

The National Commission for Women and Uttar Pradesh government have decided to move the children – all girls – out of the Swami’s ashram to shelters in Uttar Pradesh.

One can only hope ‘shelters’ prove so in the right denotation of the term.

Update: In a rather shocking article NDTV has described their meeting with Minister for Women and Child development Renuka Choudhary and her bizarre, lackadaisical manner in dealing with the sordid affair..unruffled and in no hurry to grant redressal, according to them she delayed matters for over a month..with a rather inane, caustic and irritatingly sarcastic quip like ‘This is not hindi films that we are going to rush off” or some such ridiculous answer. Well, it certainly isnt a Hindi film, because sometimes they do commit the error of portraying politicians in a kindly light..Is it any wonder that ashrams of the kind multiply and incidents of this ugliness take place, when the Minister cares two hoots for the state of children, and it had to take a directive from the chief justice to RESCUE the girls!!


In an effort to create a single forum where we as a united front can come together, voice our disgust, and prove that the powers who be are answerable to those who need to ‘know’, we have created a Wiki page.

Please pen a few lines or even your signature at the wiki page, underlining solidarity to the cause. Every comment or signature will not fail to create a ripple. We fear that once the media glare is taken off the issue, the Swami, utilising his contacts may get away, on the one hand, and the girls presently in the hands of U.P. Govt, further exposed to a similar fate.

Our efforts, with the wiki is aimed at mobilising public opinion which we insist it reach the concerned miscreants, perhaps tacitly warning the authorities that ‘we are watching’.. Please join us..Thanks

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Kaveetaa kaul



  1. Dear Kaveetaa, a knife of grief; pierces the heart… you raised important address to the quagmire the girls face now, and later.. for all their lives, perhaps for some of them?

    Some say, evil exists, because we allow it to exist; perhaps there is a profound truth in this after all?

    Yes, to stop evil.. retribution must be made a promise… to ALL, that do evil.

    Let us all send strength and courage.. to the girls… perhaps, they will be open to accept the warmth of hope, from our intent?

    with loving kindness,

    Comment by North — December 2, 2006 @ 8:28 am | Reply

  2. this guy should be brought out on the streets and flogged…that should be televised for the rest of the country to see..only then these A%^ H%$^& will learn!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Comment by puja — December 2, 2006 @ 9:12 am | Reply

  3. Hi North,

    Sometimes one gets the feeling of fighting an endless battle in a bottomless pit. We have to satify ourselves in voicing our disgust and not allowing a wrong doing to go by us as if to imply complicity. Its unimaginable what the girls might have been subjected to at that tender can only hope that those in the administration justify the position they hold..or else we will expose them as well.

    Hi Puja,

    Y’know I agree with you..too much has been brushed under the carpet too often and for too long..Ideally, exemplary punisment of the kind to rapists might do wonders..

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — December 2, 2006 @ 11:12 am | Reply

  4. Rapists Should get Publicly Raped..abomination of a human being is what he is!!!

    Comment by dilip — December 2, 2006 @ 12:02 pm | Reply

  5. Dear Kaveetaa, reading the updates, at ProjectWHY, and learning this has been ongoing for 30 years, is deeply disturbing!! All girls, aged: 2 to 15.. who’s lives were plummeted into a virtual hell on earth.

    I had difficulty sleeping… I cannot begin to fathome, the restless slumber of the girls…and if they even sleep at all, in their fear…

    Indeed; the presence of evil seems as prominent as the presence of love…. but, why do we have to have evil anyway, to balance goodness?

    Can evil be entirely cast out, from our planet?

    with loving kindness,

    Comment by North — December 2, 2006 @ 9:51 pm | Reply

  6. Honestly North, I dont have answers to your very pertinent and sincere questions.. All I can say is that maybe its designed to be this way. As long as we exist in the realm of the physical, evil will exist..if anything also to highlight the good and for us to value and honor it, strive to be that, and use our powers to curb which does not conform with its tenets..thereby increasing our Good karma and finally gaining redemption forever.

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — December 3, 2006 @ 2:09 pm | Reply

  7. Ever since I have read about this in Anouradha’s mail, I have been seething. So this is to all of you ladies who would be reading, and all the gentlemen who would stop by…..

    Firstly, this guy is NOT a “swami”, and secondly, this is not an “Ashram”. I hope you agree.

    This place straight out of nightmares, and these girls shorn of all human privileges and dignity…who is responsible?

    We are. YES, we are. I mean myself, and you, and all of you who are reading this right now, and mean to do nothing about it.

    When I say I am seething today, I mean I am seething at my own impotence, my utter helplessness in the face of such abject misery, such a dire affront to the human selfhood.The Swami is a creature from hell for sure, but who let him stay in place for 30 years? Why did it take so long for us to wake up, and what will it take for us to keep awake??

    I as a citizen of India, feel powerless to do anything about this….I want to lash out in anger, to smash everything around me, to rant against a God that lets such things happen to these girls who have done nothing whatsoever to deserve it.

    But God works through you and me, and it is we who are to blame….we who let a “swami” exist so long, and we who voted a useless “Renuka Chowdhury” to power, we who made the inactive system of Police and DM and the lot….

    And when I stop to think what is the difference between me and these girls? Or between you and them? Or between your daughters and them?

    They were born they do not know where, but certainly not in the best of circumstances, and I was born to a middle-class family that cherished me….I could easily have been one of them, so could any of you…it is just the cards of fate which determined that one of those girls fell into the clutches of a monster, and I got educated, and am able to rattle off these lines….

    It could be one of us in there, among those 65 helpless souls, and it could easily be one of our own.

    I am deeply ashamed about having such a place in my country, and would like to do all I can to help.

    Thanks, Kavita and Anouradha, the world needs more people like you.

    Please let me know what way I can help, because I can see for sure that I am going to be useless on my own. But if there is anything at all I can do, I am here.

    Justice comes to those who are true, sooner or later. Let us hope justice comes to these girls sooner rather than later, and all their agonies have not been in vain.

    Comment by Damyanti Ghosh — December 3, 2006 @ 7:16 pm | Reply

  8. Damyanti, Thanks for your comment. You are so right. But, every single voice in protest, matters, every heart which beats in consonance with their pain makes a difference..You matter.I am sure justice will prevail.. time has ripened.
    Please put your views in on the wiki page as well.

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — December 3, 2006 @ 7:34 pm | Reply

  9. Hi Kaveeta,

    I have set up my plea on my blog page . I have also joined the wiki page, but it is pending membership to the page. Sorry I was incommunicado for a while and couldn’t help you set the page up….lets work on it together now!


    Comment by Sonal — December 3, 2006 @ 10:40 pm | Reply

  10. Hi sonal,

    Have signed you in..You can write there now..

    Ideally all should be allowed to write on the wiki freely without the requirement to sign in.Can you do that some way?

    You can link your comment to your site as well.


    Comment by kaveetaakaul — December 3, 2006 @ 11:18 pm | Reply

  11. Kaveeta,

    I found I have to sign in as well to leave a comment on the wiki page.

    While I have no problems with this, any and all people i put in touch with the Wiki page may get discouraged from leaving comments because of having to sign in. Sad, but true.

    Also, a link, or perhaps the posting of the entire NDTV article as it is would help, because a lot of people have still not heard of the situation of these girls.


    Comment by Damyanti Ghosh — December 4, 2006 @ 4:31 am | Reply

  12. Kaveeta,
    I have signed in as “aagun”, but couldnt figure out how to leave comments on the wiki space. Please help.


    Comment by Damyanti Ghosh — December 4, 2006 @ 6:57 am | Reply

  13. HI Kaveetaa, I have had probs at Wiki… I used the name/pwrd you provided.. you’ll see it’s as you… lol and then I see members with their own names?

    How do I use my own name there? Once I know how; can you delete the 2 I made using yours you provided? LOL

    right now, I can only use yours, to make a comment.


    Comment by North — December 4, 2006 @ 8:13 am | Reply

  14. Damyanti, North,
    You can easily leave comments on the ‘discussion’ page, even if you are a non member..To become a member all that is needed is for you to notify us.Its simple..please go ahead.

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — December 4, 2006 @ 2:04 pm | Reply

  15. Against a Rapist in the guise of a Swami- We Need You

    Against a Rapist in the guise of a Swami- We Need You posted at

    Trackback by IndianPad — December 4, 2006 @ 8:05 pm | Reply

  16. Kaveetaa, thanks for your patience… I am IN. But, it did not work until you sent me an invite from there..though I agree I too, have to login to post(unlike a blog.)

    At any rate, all the bugs as you say, will iron out.. but, just had to let you know, invite by email seems the best way to get in as a member, with their own name….

    I have updated this issue on my blog, with a few links, and as well added the wiki badge to my blog… you been busy, you and Anou!!

    I have had contact from a global woman’s group; who finance emergancy shelter/care for women/children. She is a newer friend of mine, and is bringing this to attention at next meeting, as this is “what they do.”

    I have sent her an invite, but she is an opra singer, and quite busy, as well as this group she is involved with.. so we’ll see.

    The word is spreading–I posted a letter at wiki about the women’s group… hope it’s inspirational…and I have a deep feeling something may come from that direction(smile.)

    They make miracles happen….

    Many smiles upon you all,

    Comment by North — December 5, 2006 @ 8:56 am | Reply

  17. Hi Kaveetha,

    I have already failed to put my anger into proper words regarding such incidents. I have written a post on the Child Sex Trade in Cambodia. Please check this out:

    While you are at it, you could comment on this post too [Its a pity not many ppl have commented on it :(]

    Comment by Kiran Rao — December 5, 2006 @ 1:48 pm | Reply

  18. After reading your posts, I have just this to say..’Thank God kiran-you-are finally-blogging’ πŸ™‚

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — December 6, 2006 @ 11:01 am | Reply

  19. Whew!! Kiran after reading your Cambodian story, and the other, and this one of the Swami; I may never sleep right again, knowing the depth to which this pedophilia plague hunts upon the dignity and safety of children.

    Comment by North — December 7, 2006 @ 10:14 am | Reply

  20. Well Thanks Kaveetaa, such encouraging comments spur me on to write about more societal issues.

    @North: I felt exactly the same way when I read that article. Couldnt sleep for a few days. It made me determined to spread the word through my blog. However, we have to keep in mind that we are just scratching the surface here. Such shameful practices are rampant at almost all tourist places around the world (ok, atleast “third world”). I would go as far as to say that it exists in parallel with prostitution.

    Comment by Kiran Rao — December 7, 2006 @ 4:25 pm | Reply

  21. @Kiran, I just posted on your blog, that on CBC National News tonight, featured the Cambodian sex trade issue!!

    The word is out about this shameful human practice; but, it’s even more shocking, how many won’t even take out 2 minutes, to post a comment on the issue, which will support the issue, to evoke change!! sigggggggggh

    Both…. keep me tossing and turning.. outraged, by what we allow on earth.

    with loving kindness,

    Comment by North — December 8, 2006 @ 8:35 am | Reply

  22. […] Wonder what one can do toe ensure that justice is done. When I first wrote about the plight of these girls, there were many reactions. As the story unfolded one could feel the palpable anger that it brought. Kaveeta wrote about it passionately and came up with the idea of concerting efforts in a wiki simply called we need you. […]

    Pingback by » we need you — December 10, 2006 @ 8:13 am | Reply

  23. Hi Kaveeta,

    I am not sure whether this comment will come to your notice (its more than 2 years since you wrote this post!). I just wanted to inform you about a book on a similar subject – “Bitter Chocolate – Child Sexual Abuse in India” by Pinki Virani. Although this is a relatively old book (I think it was first published in 2000) – its very relevant nonetheless. It makes your blood boil just like this post did – but with a difference. The book offers several practical ideas to curb the menace.

    I have written a review of the book – and I definitely recommend it (if you have not already read it that is!)

    Comment by Kiran — March 17, 2009 @ 2:23 pm | Reply

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